Good Girl or Villain? I’m Choosing Neither The other day I found myself doomscrolling at night after putting the kids to bed and kept seeing different versions of the same argument. “Stop being the good girl and step into your villain era.” And I admit, I stopped my scroll to watch. Because the idea of […]

Why Invisible Work Feels Like a Waste of Time (It’s Not What You Think) Last week I wrote a post about re-invention not being about adding more to your life, but more about taking away the things that aren’t really yours (read it here, if you’re interested and haven’t yet). As I was writing that […]

There’s a pervasive idea that to better yourself, to re-invent yourself, to change means that you have to do more, learn more, or be more. I’m sure we’ve all felt the pressure to add something new to improve ourselves.  I admit that I used to think that was true. I truly believed at one point […]

There’s a pattern I’ve seen (and been in myself) more times than I can count. You’ve done the journalling. The therapy. The meditation. You’ve read the books, listened to the podcasts, taken the courses. By any measure, you’re doing the real inner work.  And yet you’re still circling the same question you were circling six […]

I spent years thinking I was broken. That everything I thought or did was wrong. That if I could just find a way to be more palatable, more acceptable, more manageable to the people and systems around me, everything would finally click into place. So I did the personal development work. All of it. Therapy, […]

I make myself a cup of tea (almost always a cream of earl grey) most mornings before I start work. Sometimes a tea latte (also earl grey), if I’m feeling fancy. Then I clear a space on my desk, sit down, and get out my tarot deck. I’ve done this for almost a decade. And, […]

If you’ve ever responded to someone saying something nice about you with “if they only knew who I really was” in your head, then this post is for you (and something I wish I knew years ago). I got off a call recently and sat at my desk just thinking, probably for longer than the […]

I googled “am I in the right career?” at midnight. More than once. I remember laying in bed, when I couldn’t sleep, typing that into the search bar (poor sleep hygiene and all). The piece I remember most is the desperation and loneliness of those moments, the quiet of the rest of the house being […]

Is this a crisis or a turning point? Two Doors That Look the Same From the Outside At twenty-one, I had two pieces of paper. One said law school. The other said grad school. Both had pros and cons lists so long they’d stopped being useful and started being ritual — something to do with […]