There’s a pervasive idea that to better yourself, to re-invent yourself, to change means that you have to do more, learn more, or be more. I’m sure we’ve all felt the pressure to add something new to improve ourselves.  I admit that I used to think that was true. I truly believed at one point […]

I spent years thinking I was broken. That everything I thought or did was wrong. That if I could just find a way to be more palatable, more acceptable, more manageable to the people and systems around me, everything would finally click into place. So I did the personal development work. All of it. Therapy, […]

If you’ve ever responded to someone saying something nice about you with “if they only knew who I really was” in your head, then this post is for you (and something I wish I knew years ago). I got off a call recently and sat at my desk just thinking, probably for longer than the […]

I googled “am I in the right career?” at midnight. More than once. I remember laying in bed, when I couldn’t sleep, typing that into the search bar (poor sleep hygiene and all). The piece I remember most is the desperation and loneliness of those moments, the quiet of the rest of the house being […]

I understand inertia far too well. Not just the textbook version, an object at rest stays at rest, but the other half that my science teachers drilled into me with equal conviction: an object in motion stays in motion. I used to think that threshold moments, those moments where you know you need to make […]